What Do You Do After Something Terrible Happens to You? With Barbara Huson
October 11, 2026
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What do you do after something terrible happens to you?
Maybe it was infidelity or another devastating betrayal. Maybe it was financial betrayal, a health crisis, or a relationship that fell apart. Whatever happened, you're left trying to figure out how to heal, trust yourself again, and move forward without letting what happened define the rest of your life.
My guest Barbara Huson knows something about that question. Her first husband was a compulsive gambler who lost almost all of her inheritance and left her facing nearly $2 million in tax debt. Years later, a series of serious health problems left her feeling as though her body—and even God—had betrayed her too.
In this conversation, Barbara and I talk about what it means to move from victim to creator—not by denying what happened, bypassing the pain, or pretending everything is fine, but by recognizing the power you still have over what happens next.
Because eventually the question shifts from Why did this happen to me? to something much more powerful:
What do I want now?
Barbara first joined me on FLAUNT! for Understanding Money—Your Post-Infidelity Plan with Barbara Huson, formerly Barbara Stanny. You can listen to that conversation here: https://dreamvisions7radio.com/barbara-huson-formerly-stanny/
Learn more about Barbara's Sacred Success: The Next Evolution retreat—where I'll also be leading a group hypnotherapy experience—here: https://www.bhuson.com/sacredsuccess
Top 3 Takeaways
- Being victimized doesn't mean you have to remain a victim.
Taking your power back isn't about excusing what someone else did or pretending you weren't hurt. It's recognizing that what happened to you and what you create from it are two different things. - Ask yourself two questions: What do I want—and what do I need to let go of?
You don't bypass grief in order to move forward. You feel it. You grieve the person, the dream, the future you thought you were going to have—and begin getting honest about what you want to create now. - You don't have to do it alone.
Even when you understand the concepts, it can be almost impossible to see your own patterns from inside them. Support, community, and what Barbara calls having a “spotter” can help you see what you can't see for yourself.
Favorite Quote
“No one will do it for you, but you don't have to do it yourself.” — Barbara Huson
About Barbara Huson
About Barbara Huson
Barbara Huson is a bestselling author, financial therapist, wealth coach, and a leading authority on women, wealth, and power. She has dedicated decades to helping women take charge of their finances, own their power, and create lives of greater purpose, prosperity, and possibility.
She is the author of seven books, including Prince Charming Isn’t Coming, Secrets of Six-Figure Women, Overcoming Underearning, Sacred Success, and Rewire for Wealth. Her work combines practical financial wisdom with psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality to help women transform not only their relationship with money, but their relationship with themselves.
After overcoming her own experience of financial betrayal and learning firsthand what it means to reclaim responsibility and power, Barbara has made it her mission to help women move from dependence to sovereignty and from fear to what she calls Sacred Success.
Learn more about Barbara and her work at Barbara-Huson.com.
Learn more about Sacred Success: The Next Evolution, where I’ll also be leading a group hypnotherapy experience: https://www.bhuson.com/sacredsuccess
About Lora
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.
Resources & Links
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- Book your $97 Introductory Session: https://introductorysession.com
- Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle
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