You’ve may have heard the old adage that when you assume things, you make an ass out of both u and me, (ass-u-me, get it?) and if you anything like me, you try not to make assumptions. But if you are human, you also have what’s known as a negativity bias. A negativity bias is…
There’s been a lot of death around me lately. Not only the shooting in Uvalde, Texas or in the news, but around me personally as well. Not that I “like” death, but I appreciate the clarity and perspective it can bring. If you had one month to live, how would you live? And by…
You’ve been betrayed and your entire world has been rocked. Not only does the person you thought you knew suddenly feel like a stranger, but your own identity and sense of self becomes so wobbly that you wonder if you will ever feel “normal,” safe, or happy again. Many ask, “Is it possible to rebuild…
How Cheaters Justify Cheating – The Psychology of Betrayal One of the most confusing aspects of being cheated on is how your cheating partner can claim that they didn’t think about you, your kids, home, family, friends, community, or employment – especially if they cheated with someone at work, before they cheated or even while…
You’ve been hurt, victimized, or betrayed and you feel awful. One moment you are crying so hard you are afraid that you’ll never be able to stop, and the next you are enraged and want to get revenge. But before any of your wicked plans come to fruition, you crumple into the sheer horror of…
If you are anything like most people, you like doing things that you are good at. Whether it’s yoga, cooking, finances, parenting, or keeping the peace, it’s more fun doing things that you are good at than it is to struggle along, do poorly, and feel awkward and inept doing things you are bad at.…
Infidelity hurts in a way that no other injury does. In part because it’s intentional, so it cuts to the core of who you are and what you are worth, and because it comes from someone you love and trust. Worse, it shakes your beliefs about justice, fairness, and how the world works. Affairs aren’t…
In both my coaching and my book, I talk about what it means to be a woman, mother, daughter, or friend. I have the women I coach with free-write to the prompts “A good woman is…” and “A good woman does…” 100% of the time it is illuminating. Many women have been wounded by men,…
