Finding light after infidelity

We live in a culture that is afraid of the dark, both literally and metaphorically. We celebrate beauty, success, and power and we cover and hide that which is inconvenient, painful, or weak. We don’t like things that are ugly or messy and we tend to shame ourselves and others for not being able to put on a happy face or be perfect all the time. Especially when we are facing infidelity or betrayal.


Facing the dark night of the soul is where things get real. Because when faced with darkness, we have two choices:

  • Search for the light outside ourselves, or
  • Search for the light within.
Top take-a-ways:
  • The balance of light and dark, good and evil, and how to honor both so you can accept in and embrace the all.
  • How the cycle of the seasons is a reflection of our journey through life.
  • Witnessing, being seen, and sharing your grief authentically.
  • Embracing the Peruvian wisdom of the snake, puma, and condor.
  • Deciding if you are cultivating your own light, or relying too heavily on others to do it for you?
  • How finding a PIECE of our own light will bring us PEACE!
  • Why you don’t need to illuminate the whole world; you just need to illuminate yourself.



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About Lora:

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

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