You’ve may have heard the old adage that when you assume things, you make an ass out of both u and me, (ass-u-me, get it?) and if you anything like me, you try not to make assumptions. But if you are human, you also have what’s known as a negativity bias. A negativity bias is…
As a Betrayal Recovery Expert who works with women who’ve been betrayed by their intimate partner and are ready to let go of the grief, pain, and heartbreak so they can claim what’s possible for them on the other side of betrayal, one thing I hear often is, “Will I ever be able to love…
There’s been a lot of death around me lately. Not only the shooting in Uvalde, Texas or in the news, but around me personally as well. Not that I “like” death, but I appreciate the clarity and perspective it can bring. If you had one month to live, how would you live? And by…
You’ve been betrayed, and your entire world has been rocked. Not only does the person you thought you knew suddenly feel like a stranger, but your identity and sense of self become so wobbly that you wonder if you will ever feel “normal,” safe, or happy again. Many ask, “Is it possible to rebuild trust…
What do you do when life throws you a curve ball? Do you fight for control, muscle up, power through, and do what it takes to overcome, or do you surrender? Or does it depend on the situation? If you have ever made a bigger mess out of an already challenging situation, then you might…
How Cheaters Justify Cheating – The Psychology of Betrayal One of the most confusing aspects of being cheated on is how your cheating partner can claim that they didn’t think about you, your kids, home, family, friends, community, or employment – especially if they cheated with someone at work, before they cheated, or even while…
Let’s break down these top seven reasons so you will be able to understand more fully how this works: To get out of the relationship To stay in the relationship Because of substance abuse or other addiction issues In a desperate attempt to get external validation Due to emotional immaturity To stroke their ego or…
Whenever our brains have “open loops” aka unanswered questions, they automatically start searching for answers. They search and they search, and they search until they find answers for those questions so they can close the loop and move on. Until the brain finds a satisfactory answer, it keeps seeking answers. That’s why you are having…
Whether your betrayal was recent or several years back, being betrayed makes you feel like your insides have been shattered. Like you will never recover, feel happy, or find joy again. But despite the way you feel right now, betrayal can make you stronger. If you choose to let it. What is Betrayal? …
